Mamas, I don’t think I need to remind you that running a functional household is stress city. No matter how much we do, it never seems to be enough, whether it’s helping the kids with homework or tackling the bottomless pit of laundry. #Momstress only needs a small amount of encouragement and it will take over faster than a fever through a daycare.
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Finding healthy ways to manage the stress is the only option if you want to feel more in control of your life and not spend every free moment worrying. Adding new elements to the daily routine doesn’t come easy, especially to moms who are major creatures of habit. (Don’t mess with the nap schedule, amirite?) But, the following changes in behaviour are pretty simple to implement and just might help take some of the stress away.
Be Prepared for the Day
Nothing can stress you out faster than a disorganized house with kids running riot. So, cleaning up and preparing meals can seem almost impossible at times when you already have too much on your plate.
Thankfully, you can break chores down into bite size chunks by being proactive.
Take dinnertime for example since it’s typically the hardest part of the day for most moms. One way to make it easier is by making batches of food ahead of time and putting them in the freezer. Then, come dinnertime, you just need to defrost a meal and heat it up.
Planning ahead a little can save you a lot of anxiety when the going starts to get tough. Pinpoint the hardest parts of your day and make a plan for how you can simplify them.
Practical Solutions for House Management Problems
Unfortunately, freezing meals can’t help deal with some of the more complicated sources of stress, like debt. I remember reading somewhere that money and finances is the #1 thing couples fight about, talk about high-stress!
Now that my husband is finally finished school, we have to deal with the student loans and the consumer debt we accumulated trying to get through the leaner months.
Debt repayment seriously takes a big chunk out of my Ikea budget.
The average family is in $5,000 of arrears in the US, and the longer it takes to pay back, the bigger the repercussions. Sometimes it’s hard enough to keep up with the interest payments let alone make a dent in the balance.
One way to deal with this scenario is to research ways to repair your credit and feel less overwhelmed financially with the help of repair.credit.
Alternately, you can consolidate debts into one manageable payment. We do this when our credit card balances start to get out of control. We transfer all the debt onto the line of credit, which has a much lower interest rate, and make one larger payment instead of several smaller payments.
Where there is a will, there’s a way!
Relax And Recuperate
Family life is busy and fast-paced and wonderful and exhausting. Sometimes, mama desperately needs a break from the hustle and bustle of life.
Give yourself permission to fill up your tank, you can’t run on empty!
Go for a walk to get some air, hide away with a hot drink and a treat, take the time for a long hot shower or simply amble off to the bedroom for a nap. And let everyone know you are out of bounds for the next hour. If they want help, they will have to ask dad or figure it out for themselves!
You may also be interested in this post of 9 simple ways for busy moms to practice self care.
Reconnect with yourself and with others. Sometimes you gotta leave the house so you can’t see the mess or hear the noise that is distracting you from feeling human.
Going out for a coffee or a meal with some mom friends is a great way to feel like an adult again, and to remember that you still have interests outside the home.
I meet up with a couple of friends every other week for “book club” (we never talk about the book, lol) and it’s great! Even though leaving the house feels impossible and I always feel too exhausted to go, I’m always glad that I do. I really need that time to commiserate with other moms who understand what my day-to-day is like.
Try to ‘unplug’ for at least part of the day, everyday. Turn off your devices or at the very least, turn off notifications. Unsubscribe from the mailing lists that are clogging up your inbox. Unfollow the friends or pages that always post nonsense or negative content. Don’t click on the click-bait headlines.
Give your brain a break from all the input.
There is such a constant influx of information, opinions, advice and sad news that is subconsciously adding to your stress load.
I see so many links to articles that I know will lead me into a pit of despair and comparison and make me feel ‘less than’. I don’t need that in my life and neither do you.
These are just a few ways in which to diminish the hold that mom stress has on you.
What do you do during the day to clear your head?